Welcome Everyone to my blog, WELCOME TO CRYSTAL’S SITE(ORIGINALLY COUNTRY LIVING). I want to tell you about my experience growing up without a computer and/or a cell phone.
When I grew up believe it or not computers and cell phones weren’t a big thing. In fact, when I was growing up I remember playing with my two younger sisters who just happen to be fraternal twins with personalities that are like day and night and we played with the other children that lived on the street. I even remember walking up town to the little grocery store where you could even get penny candy for an afternoon. I lived in a time when you didn’t need to lock your doors. That changed when a rapist moved in across the street from us( that could be another post entirely.
WHAT IT WAS LIKE GROWING UP WITHOUT A COMPUTER OR A CELL PHONE
I have to be honest with you entirely, it wasn’t bad growing up without computers or cellphones in my opinion mostly because I had other children to play with from our street or I played with my sisters. I even remember going to slumber parties. Eventually my parents got one of those old-fashioned bag car phone by Trac Phone. I really never missed having one until I got older. That’s when I started asking my parents for a computer.
WHAT HAPPENED WHEN I STOPPED ASKING FOR A COMPUTER
As I mentioned previously, when I became older meaning in my 20’s I started really wanting a computer. Every time I asked my mom would ask me what do you want a computer for? Each time I would tell her the same thing which was for e-mailing my friends. After years of not getting a computer or cell phone I stopped asking for the computer. I really never asked for a cell phone because I thought why have a cell phone when you already have a computer. You see, I thought I was thinking logically or so I thought. When I stopped asking for my computer I think my parents were relieved LOL and waited several years to see if I would start asking again. I didn’t. My parents eventually rewarded me for waiting several years.
WHEN I GOT MY COMPUTER AND MY REWARD
I never got my first computer until I was 40+ years old. OK I know some of you think you waited how long(gasp!!) I know to some of you that might seem like an eternity but was well worth it. Let me explain. You see just because I waited several years for my computer doesn’t mean I stopped wanting one. I just thought after asking for so long and not getting my computer I was never going to get one. Boy was I ever wrong. One Christmas, I opened all my small gifts first which is what I normally do unless I decide to change things up. I kept going over and over in my mind what my big gifts could be. It never crossed my mind it would be a computer and a computer case. I was so excited that I was jumping up out my chair and screaming thank you, thank you, thank you to my Mom and Dad and my youngest sister got me a computer case. If I would have opened the computer case first I would have known what the second gift was and probably wouldn’t have been excited either. I was thrilled to get a computer.
HOW LONG MY FIRST COMPUTER LASTED
My first computer which was an Acer computer and it was bought at Best Buy lasted me 3-4 years then it literally crashed. I couldn’t believe it. So I looked around for a second computer. Eventually found one sale at Staples.
HOW LONG MY SECOND COMPUTER LASTED
My second was an upgrade from my last computer. My second computer was bought at Staples too and was a Dell. It also was a Windows 8 and my first computer was a Windows 7. I eventually upgraded from Windows 8 to Windows 10( I got the free upgrade). My second computer eventually went after 3-4 years. Found out later that the motherboard on my computer went. The technological guy said when the motherboard goes that’s when you should buy a new computer because it costs more to fix than to buy a computer. And to think I just took it in because the cord wouldn’t hold a charge. Who would’ve thought something so simple would turn into something so difficult. I sure didn’t. Since I already had my computer they tried to pull off as much stuff as they were able to off my computer and put it on a flash drive. I got another computer that day with another upgrade.
HOW LONG MY THIRD COMPUTER LASTED
My third computer and hopefully my last is still working and running. I’ve had my computer for two years now and learning something new each day. When I bought my new computer which is a Lenovo ideapad 320S, it had Windows 10 pre-installed and other new things which I have yet to learn. I love my Lenovo computer.
ARE THOSE ADD ONS REALLY NECESSARY?
If you ever bought a computer and I think most of you have, then you know once you’ve chosen your computer they start asking you do you want to buy the extra add ons? A lot of people don’t buy them because they think I don’t really need this and believe me I’m guilty of thinking this too. When I bought my first add-on I never thought I was never going to use it. Guess what? I used it. It would’ve cost me an arm and a leg if I wouldn’t have had it. My computer was my Birthday/Christmas gift from my parents and they bought the extra add ons and McAfee Live Safe anti-virus to install on my computer. Hope I don’t need it but at least I have it in case something should happen.
In my opinion, before turning down the technological associate for add-ons that might save you money in the long run, think of how much it will cost you to fix that cord and/or computer and compare the costs. Trust me $100 for the cost of an add-on you may never use but what if something unexpected happens and you do need it. $100 will be like a drop in the bucket compared to what that cord or computer will cost you and trust me it will be more than $100. So my suggestion, GET THE ADD ONS THERE WORTH EVERY PENNY!!
Everyone has their routine and something tells me watching the news falls in your routine somewhere. If it doesn’t, you’re lucky because the news is usually depressing anyway unless you have something like Royal wedding or a bunch of ducklings being rescued from a sewer drain and reunited with the mother duck(which actually did happen).
In my part of the world(don’t know about yours) the news is talking about bullying, sexual assault accusations, Trump canceling and un-canceling the summit with North Korea, a lot of protesting over blacks getting shot and even more depressing news which I’m not going to list. I’m not trying to be mean but if you don’t follow commands you might get shot.
#Bullying is very real. Bullying not only happened when I went to school and it happened a lot. Only Back then it wasn’t called bullying it was called being picked on continuously. Today some children that are bullied they take what they think the easy way out which is suicide. Also, please note that bullying can lead to sexual assaults. I found 2 flow charts on dealing with bullying. Actually, the charts deal with bullying and suicide. The charts are below. Please note that most of the time the percentage of girls who thought about suicide and/or attempted suicide is higher than the boys.
#Depressing News is very real. I hate to say it but if you watch the news then your bound to come across depressing news daily. Actually, my solution to this problem is simple don’t watch the news. Oh I know what your probably thinking how am I supposed to find out the weather? Ever hear of a smart phone or a computer. Most of you have a smart phone and/or computer so check the weather that way. I found a link online that sends me Weather Updates twice a day, Amber Alerts(if there are any), Weather Alerts when warnings and/or watches are issued for the county I live in( which is Butler County), I get notified when there are recalls and so much more. I love this link.
#Positive Solutions is actually very simple. I’m sure there are more positive solutions than what I’m going to list but if you think of additional solutions that’s great. Also, please feel free to let me know by using the contact form or comment form below my solutions.
MY SOLUTIONS FOR BULLYING
Don’t bully anyone yourself.
Try to prevent bullying before harm comes to either party.
Keep encouraging your child or young adult and encourage the person who’s doing the bullying and you might see a change but there’s never any guarantees.
Stay positive and give a friendly smile no matter what you’re feeling about the person.
If you know that someone is think about committing suicide, GET THEM HELP RIGHT AWAY!!
Learn the signs of someone wanting to commit suicide. One main sign is:
When they start giving their stuff away for no reason.
MY SOLUTIONS FOR DEPRESSING NEWS
Don’t watch it.
Only watch the non-depressing news(if there is any).
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WHAT I HAVE:
I HAVE THE FREE AFFINITY THEME!!):):😪😪
WHAT FREE THEMES I’M CONSIDERING AND HOW I’M FEELING ABOUT THEM:
SOMETHING FISHY (MAYBE).
LODESTAR (LIKE FEATURES AND IT HAS A PORTFOLIO, TESTIMONIALS AND A HEADER — (EVERYTHING I WANT but MAYBE).
SCRATCHPAD — (MAYBE).
As you can see I found only 1 with everything I want. So like I said previously, I will consider ALL FREE THEMES whether they have everything in them that I want or not. Any advice and or help is greatly appreciated. Thanks In Advance Everyone. Please use Contact Form form for your Advice and Testimonials. You can use the Contact Form for other comments too. Can’t wait to see your suggestions.
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You Should Kill Yourself. You’re Weird. You’re Different. You’re Not Pretty. You’re Not Handsome. You Can’t Do That. Your Stupid. The list goes on and on. Got your attention? I hope so because with the way technology is now days bullying happens more than we think. Another thing we should consider is that boys aren’t the only ones that bully but girls bully kids too.
These phrases could be considered bullying. Which type of bullying? The phrases I have listed in the Introduction fall into the Verbal Bullying and Cyber-Bullying categories. Are these the only two types of bullying? Sadly no. In fact, there are six types of bullying that can happen. The six types of bullying are: Physical Bullying, Verbal Bullying, Relational Aggression, Cyber-Bullying, Sexual Bullying and Prejudicial Bullying. I will be taking a look at each type of bullying, Giving examples of each type of bullying and I will also give visual examples of each type of bullying too.
Types Of Bullying
Physical Bullying is considered to be the most obvious form of bullying. Physical Bullying happens when the more popular kids are bigger, stronger and more aggressive than the unpopular kids. Examples of Physical Bullying are Kicking, Punching, Slapping, Shoving and Other physical attacks that occur. Unlike other types of bullying, Physical Bullying is the easiest type of bullying to identify.
Relational Aggression is a sneaky type of bullying that usually goes unnoticed by parents and teachers. This type of bullying is sometimes referred to as emotional bullying. Relational Aggression is a type of social manipulation where the people who are the bullies try to hurt their peers or sabotage their social standing. Examples of Relational Aggression are: Being told they can’t be in a group, People spread rumors about them, People manipulate situations and They try to break confidences. The bully’s goal is to make themselves look good-by controlling or bullying another person.
If we take a look at both females and males, you will usually find that females use Relational Aggression more than males. A person on the receiving end of Relational Aggression Bullying is often teased, intimidated, insulted, excluded and ignored.
Bullying doesn’t just happen in schools but can happen in the workplace too. Kids as young as 2 years old can start to bully other kids. Why does bullying start so young and how does it develop? I learned that bullying is something that just doesn’t suddenly or mysteriously appear in young children. In fact, children bring with them a history of experiences with family, media and other children.
Cyber-Bullying is when a person uses the internet, smart phone or other types of technology to target another person, threaten, harass or embarrass someone. Cyber-Bullies often say things they don’t have the courage to tell them face to face. Examples of Cyber-Bullying are: When a person sends nasty e-mails or text messages, Posting nasty and embarrassing pictures on social media, videos and websites.
Sexual Bullying is when a person or group of people targets someone sexually. Examples of Sexual Bullying are: Sexual Name Calling, Crude Comments, Vulgar Gestures, Uninvited Touching, Uninvited Sexual Advances and Pornographic Materials. In some cases Sexual Bullying can lead to sexual assault and possibly rape.
I know for a fact that this type of bullying actually does happen and to boys too not just girls. I know a teacher who knows a child that has had Sexual Bullying happen to him. I’m not naming the child or teacher due to privacy and security issues. But do note that this type of bullying happens more than you think. Also, this type of bullying is not just in schools but the workplace too.
Prejudicial Bullying is mostly between teens. It is based on race, religions and/or sexual orientations. It is sad to say this can take in all other types of bullying. When this type of bullying occurs it is often severe and could lead to hate crime.
6 Common Types Of Bullies
Bully Victims often rise up after being bullied. They’ll bully others weaker themselves because they have been bullied themselves. Their goal is to regain the power and sense of control in their lives. Other times the bully victim comes from a home life riddled with domestic violence or suffers abuse from an older sibling. In cases like these bullying is a learned behavior.
Popular Bullies have big egos. Popular Bullies also have a group of supporters and/or followers. They are often confident and condescending towards others. In fact, Popular Bullies often feel a sense of entitlement that comes from their popularity, their size, their social status and their upbringing. Popular Bullies are sometimes the school’s star athlete and is often looked up to by others since they’re perceived as leaders.
Relational Bullies are usually somewhat popular and enjoys deciding who is popular and who isn’t. Often times Relational Bullies usually only use Verbal and/or Emotional Bullying to control someone. Mean girls are considered to be Relational Bullies.
A Serial Bully is systematic, controlled and calculated in their approach to bullying and they are often found in popular circles. However, adults such as parents, teachers and administrators usually have no idea what a Serial Bully is capable of because on the outside they may seem sweet and charming to authority figures but on the inside they can be very mean to others they don’t like. Examples of Serial Bullies are: They become fake friends to others and They are skilled at lying to get their way.
Group Bullies are either part of a clique or a group that just follows the leader just to belong. However, they usually act different when they’re alone even with the victim. Because children feel better when they’re in a group, they also feel less responsible because all their friends “are doing it”.
Finally, I found in my research that Indifferent Bullies are unable to feel empathy. They often will appear, unfeeling, cold and have very little remorse for what they do. They get enjoyment out of seeing someone else suffer and getting disciplined. They are discouraged by punishment. Also they are usually brutal, cruel and mean and usually have psychological problems.
I have given you something to read and think about but I said in the title of my post that solutions were included. Below are some of my solutions that might help with bullying.
Solutions For Bullying:
Don’t Start Bullying Anyone.
Walk Away If A Bully Tries To Pick A Fight.
Think Before You Post And Send.
Make The Block Button Your Friend.
Someone Starts Name-Calling Don’t Argue But Walk Away.
Tell Your Teacher, Parents And In A Worse Case Scenario Tell The Police.
Never Argue With A Bully.
There are plenty of more solutions and I’m sure you may be able to think of some but these solutions that are listed especially Number 7 Never Argue With A Bully, are some important solutions that might help.
OK, I was frustrated enough already when I found out I couldn’t get into my computer for my e-mail. As it turns out my provider was have an issue with the e-mail and was working toward fixing it. Apparently there had been several calls to my provider because they made a recording about it. when I finally was able to get into my computer I got a nice surprise. My surprise was that I found I had been nominated for The Sunshine Blogger Award by Perditas Pursuits from Tinsel And Treasure . I’m so grateful for this nomination. This lifted my spirits finding this little treasure in my WordPress mailbox. Thanks again Tinsel And Treasure. You can find her original post on Tinsel and Treasure by going to the Sunshine Blogger Award.
Thank the blogger who nominated you in your blog post and link back to the blog.
Answer 11 questions that the Blogger asked you.
Nominate 11 new bloggers to receive the award and write them 11 questions.
List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post on your blog.
QUESTIONS ASKED BY TINSEL AND TREASURE:
What is your daily work and how did you get into it? I’m unemployed at the present time. However, I worked for 18 years as a Retail Associate until the store closed for good.
How would you describe your writing style? I’m passionate about my writing.
Are you extravagant or thrifty? I’m both. I have expensive taste but when I buy things I look for the best deals.
What’s your favourite time of the year and why? I have 2 favorite times of the year. First is December and why? Because it’s my birthday time and the time our Savior was born. Tied for first is also Easter Time and why? Our savior died and rose on the third day.
What book, character or tv show would you love a movie to be made of? “Murder She Wrote”.
Describe your ideal day out? My ideal day out would be to eat out and do some shopping. I like to shop.
What little social media habits really irritate you? How much time do yo have. I’m just going to a list a few. First, I don’t like how they make you sign into see the full view of what you’re viewing, I don’t like how they cover up most of the page with their ads like they don’t want you to see what’s on the page unless you’ve got an account.
What is your favourite meal to eat ‘out’? This may seem simple but my favorite meal is Hot Wings I like to order unless I’m somewhere that doesn’t have Hot Wings on the menu.
Describe something you have done skillfully/ well? Writing Poetry. I started writing poetry after I met Maya Angelou in college
You are to choose 5 pet bloggers and link to their blogs and describe why each of them deserves this award.
You must encourage the pet bloggers to shout out 5 bloggers themselves.
You must leave a comment on their blogs letting them know you’ve given them the spotlight.
I follow several good animal blogs so it’s hard to pick just 5. Please note I will give this award out many times so if you don’t get the award this time you may get it another time. Since I will be awarding this early this month, I’ll be skipping March with the award.
I nominated TWOspoiledcats pet blog because this pet blog deals with helping cats. I like pet blogs who are willing to help. Helping an animal doesn’t always mean you have to give money. This blog also deals with adopting cats and other animals.