#Bullying, #Depressing News, #Be Positive

Everyone has their routine and something tells me watching the news falls in your routine somewhere. If it doesn’t, you’re lucky because the news is usually depressing anyway unless you have something like Royal wedding or a bunch of ducklings being rescued from a sewer drain and reunited with the mother duck(which actually did happen).

In my part of the world(don’t know about yours) the news is talking about bullying, sexual assault accusations, Trump canceling and un-canceling the summit with North Korea,  a lot of protesting over blacks getting shot and even more depressing news which I’m not going to list. I’m not trying to be mean but if you don’t follow commands you might get shot.

#BULLYING

#Bullying is very real. Bullying not only happened when I went to school and it happened a lot. Only Back then it wasn’t called bullying it was called being picked on continuously. Today some children that are bullied they take what they think the easy way out which is suicide. Also, please note that bullying can lead to sexual assaults. I found 2 flow charts on dealing with bullying. Actually, the charts deal with bullying and suicide. The charts are below. Please note that most of the time  the percentage of girls who thought about suicide and/or attempted suicide is higher than the boys.

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THIS CHART IS ABOUT THOUGHTS ABOUT SUICIDE VS. ATTEMPTED SUICIDE IN BOYS AND GIRLS.
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THIS CHART IS ABOUT SUICIDE RATES, BY REGION. ’05 TO ’14.

#DEPRESSING NEWS

#Depressing News is very real. I hate to say it but if you watch the news then your bound to come across depressing news daily. Actually, my solution to this problem is simple don’t watch the news. Oh I know what your probably thinking how am I supposed to find out the weather? Ever hear of a smart phone or a computer. Most of you have a smart phone and/or computer so check the weather that way. I found a link online that sends me Weather Updates twice a day, Amber Alerts(if there are any), Weather Alerts when warnings and/or watches are issued for the county I live in( which is Butler County), I get notified when there are recalls and so much more. I love this link.

#POSITIVE SOLUTIONS

#Positive Solutions is actually very simple.  I’m sure there are more positive solutions than what I’m going to list but if you think of additional solutions that’s great. Also, please feel free to let me know by using the contact form or comment form below my solutions.

MY SOLUTIONS FOR BULLYING

  1. Don’t bully anyone yourself.
  2. Try to prevent bullying before harm comes to either party.
  3. Keep encouraging your child or young adult and encourage the person who’s doing the bullying and you might see a change but there’s never any guarantees.
  4. Stay positive and give a friendly smile no matter what you’re feeling about the person.
  5. If you know that someone is think about committing suicide, GET THEM HELP RIGHT AWAY!!
  6. Learn the signs of someone wanting to commit suicide. One main sign is:
  • When they start giving their stuff away for no reason.

MY SOLUTIONS FOR DEPRESSING NEWS

  1. Don’t watch it.
  2. Only watch the non-depressing news(if there is any).
  3. Focus on the positive.
  4. Repeat 1, 2, & 3.

 

 

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Types Of Bullying And The Possible Solutions To Stop Bullying

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You Should Kill Yourself. You’re Weird. You’re Different. You’re Not Pretty. You’re Not Handsome. You Can’t Do That. Your Stupid. The list goes on and on. Got your attention? I hope so because with the way technology is now days bullying happens more than we think. Another thing we should consider is that boys aren’t the only ones that bully but girls bully kids too.

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These phrases could be considered bullying. Which type of bullying? The phrases I have listed in the Introduction fall into the Verbal Bullying and Cyber-Bullying categories. Are these the only two types of bullying? Sadly no. In fact, there are six types of bullying that can happen. The six types of bullying are: Physical Bullying, Verbal Bullying, Relational Aggression, Cyber-Bullying, Sexual Bullying and Prejudicial Bullying. I will be taking a look at each type of bullying, Giving examples of each type of bullying and I will also give visual examples of each type of bullying too.

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Types Of Bullying

Physical Bullying:

Physical Bullying is considered to be the most obvious form of bullying. Physical Bullying happens when the more popular kids are bigger, stronger and more aggressive than the unpopular kids. Examples of Physical Bullying are Kicking, Punching, Slapping, Shoving and Other physical attacks that occur. Unlike other types of bullying, Physical Bullying is the easiest type of bullying to identify.

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Relational Aggression:

Relational Aggression is a sneaky type of bullying that usually goes unnoticed by parents and teachers. This type of bullying is sometimes referred to as emotional bullying. Relational Aggression is a type of social manipulation where the people who are the bullies try to hurt their peers or sabotage their social standing. Examples of Relational Aggression are: Being told they can’t be in a group, People spread rumors about them,  People manipulate situations and They try to break confidences.  The bully’s goal is to make themselves look good-by controlling or bullying another person.

If we take a look at both females and males, you will usually find that females use Relational Aggression more than males.  A person on the receiving end of Relational Aggression Bullying is often teased, intimidated, insulted, excluded and ignored.

Bullying doesn’t just happen in schools but can happen in the workplace too. Kids as young as 2 years old can start to bully other kids. Why does bullying start so young and how does it develop? I learned that bullying is something that just doesn’t suddenly or mysteriously appear in young children. In fact, children bring with them a history of experiences with family, media and other children.

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Cyber-Bullying:

Cyber-Bullying is when a person uses the internet, smart phone or other types of technology to target another person, threaten, harass or embarrass someone. Cyber-Bullies often say things they don’t have the courage to tell them face to face. Examples of Cyber-Bullying are: When a person sends nasty e-mails or text messages, Posting nasty and embarrassing pictures on social media, videos and websites.

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Sexual Bullying: 

Sexual Bullying is when a person or group of people targets someone sexually. Examples of Sexual Bullying are: Sexual Name Calling, Crude Comments, Vulgar Gestures, Uninvited Touching, Uninvited Sexual Advances and Pornographic Materials. In some cases Sexual Bullying can lead to sexual assault and possibly rape.

I know for a fact that this type of bullying actually does happen and to boys too not just girls. I know a teacher who knows a child that has had Sexual Bullying happen to him. I’m not naming the child or teacher due to privacy and security issues. But do note that this type of bullying happens more than you think. Also, this type of bullying is not just in schools but the workplace too.

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Prejudicial Bullying:

Prejudicial Bullying is mostly between teens. It is based on race, religions and/or sexual orientations. It is sad to say this can take in all other types of bullying. When this type of bullying occurs it is often severe and could lead to hate crime.

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 6 Common Types Of Bullies

Bully Victims:

Bully Victims often rise up after being bullied. They’ll bully others weaker themselves because they have been bullied themselves. Their goal is to regain the power and sense of control in their lives. Other times the bully victim comes from a home life riddled with domestic violence or suffers abuse from an older sibling. In cases like these bullying is a learned behavior.

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Popular Bullies:

Popular Bullies have big egos.  Popular Bullies also have a group of supporters and/or followers. They are often confident and condescending towards others. In fact, Popular Bullies often feel a sense of entitlement that comes from their popularity, their size, their social status and their upbringing. Popular Bullies are sometimes the school’s star athlete and is often looked up to by others since they’re perceived as leaders.

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Relational Bullies:

Relational Bullies are usually somewhat popular and enjoys deciding who is popular and who isn’t. Often times Relational Bullies usually only use Verbal and/or Emotional Bullying to control someone. Mean girls are considered to be Relational Bullies.

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Serial Bullies:

Serial Bully is systematic, controlled and calculated in their approach to bullying and they are often found in popular circles. However, adults such as parents, teachers and administrators usually have no idea what a Serial Bully is capable of because on the outside they may seem sweet and charming to authority figures but on the inside they can be very mean to others they don’t like. Examples of Serial Bullies are: They become fake friends to others and They are skilled at lying to get their way.

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Group Bullies:

Group Bullies are either part of a clique or a group that just follows the leader just to belong. However, they usually act different when they’re alone even with the victim. Because children feel better when they’re in a group, they also feel less responsible because all their friends “are doing it”.

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Indifferent Bullies:

Finally, I found in my research that Indifferent Bullies are unable to feel empathy. They often will appear, unfeeling, cold and have very little remorse for what they do. They get enjoyment out of seeing someone else suffer and getting disciplined. They are discouraged by punishment. Also they are usually brutal, cruel and mean and usually have psychological problems.

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I have given you something to read and think about but I said in the title of my post that solutions were included. Below are some of my solutions that might help with bullying.

Solutions For Bullying:

  1. Don’t Start Bullying Anyone.
  2. Walk Away If A Bully Tries To Pick A Fight.
  3. Think Before You Post And Send.
  4. Make The Block Button Your Friend.
  5. Someone Starts Name-Calling Don’t Argue But Walk Away.
  6. Tell Your Teacher, Parents And In A Worse Case Scenario Tell The Police.
  7. Never Argue With A Bully.

There are plenty of more solutions and I’m sure you may be able to think of some but these solutions that are listed especially Number 7 Never Argue With A Bully, are some important solutions that might help.

Links Used In My Research:

I used my EXPERIENCE With Bullying, I Used My Indirect Experience With Bullying,  I used 6 Types of Bullying Every Parent Should Know AboutHow Does Early Bullying Develop and you can find more solutions at 10 Ways to Reduce Bullying in Schools.

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Conclusion:

My conclusion is very simple, if you think you see bullying happening do something about it and report it.

STOP BULLYING!!

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Bullying

By: Crystal Stewart

Bullying is a mean way to

Gain power over a person

Who is weaker than the bully.

Although bullying happens more 

Often than reported, walking away

And reporting it are the best solutions

To bullying and hope anyone in a

Bullying situation will do exactly this.

My plea to everyone is don’t bully but 

Treat the bully with extreme kindness

And they will wonder why you are being

So kind to them when they are

Being mean to you.

So be extra kind to bullies.