You Should Kill Yourself. You’re Weird. You’re Different. You’re Not Pretty. You’re Not Handsome. You Can’t Do That. Your Stupid. The list goes on and on. Got your attention? I hope so because with the way technology is now days bullying happens more than we think. Another thing we should consider is that boys aren’t the only ones that bully but girls bully kids too.
These phrases could be considered bullying. Which type of bullying? The phrases I have listed in the Introduction fall into the Verbal Bullying and Cyber-Bullying categories. Are these the only two types of bullying? Sadly no. In fact, there are six types of bullying that can happen. The six types of bullying are: Physical Bullying, Verbal Bullying, Relational Aggression, Cyber-Bullying, Sexual Bullying and Prejudicial Bullying. I will be taking a look at each type of bullying, Giving examples of each type of bullying and I will also give visual examples of each type of bullying too.
Types Of Bullying
Physical Bullying is considered to be the most obvious form of bullying. Physical Bullying happens when the more popular kids are bigger, stronger and more aggressive than the unpopular kids. Examples of Physical Bullying are Kicking, Punching, Slapping, Shoving and Other physical attacks that occur. Unlike other types of bullying, Physical Bullying is the easiest type of bullying to identify.
Relational Aggression is a sneaky type of bullying that usually goes unnoticed by parents and teachers. This type of bullying is sometimes referred to as emotional bullying. Relational Aggression is a type of social manipulation where the people who are the bullies try to hurt their peers or sabotage their social standing. Examples of Relational Aggression are: Being told they can’t be in a group, People spread rumors about them, People manipulate situations and They try to break confidences. The bully’s goal is to make themselves look good-by controlling or bullying another person.
If we take a look at both females and males, you will usually find that females use Relational Aggression more than males. A person on the receiving end of Relational Aggression Bullying is often teased, intimidated, insulted, excluded and ignored.
Bullying doesn’t just happen in schools but can happen in the workplace too. Kids as young as 2 years old can start to bully other kids. Why does bullying start so young and how does it develop? I learned that bullying is something that just doesn’t suddenly or mysteriously appear in young children. In fact, children bring with them a history of experiences with family, media and other children.
Cyber-Bullying is when a person uses the internet, smart phone or other types of technology to target another person, threaten, harass or embarrass someone. Cyber-Bullies often say things they don’t have the courage to tell them face to face. Examples of Cyber-Bullying are: When a person sends nasty e-mails or text messages, Posting nasty and embarrassing pictures on social media, videos and websites.
Sexual Bullying is when a person or group of people targets someone sexually. Examples of Sexual Bullying are: Sexual Name Calling, Crude Comments, Vulgar Gestures, Uninvited Touching, Uninvited Sexual Advances and Pornographic Materials. In some cases Sexual Bullying can lead to sexual assault and possibly rape.
I know for a fact that this type of bullying actually does happen and to boys too not just girls. I know a teacher who knows a child that has had Sexual Bullying happen to him. I’m not naming the child or teacher due to privacy and security issues. But do note that this type of bullying happens more than you think. Also, this type of bullying is not just in schools but the workplace too.
Prejudicial Bullying is mostly between teens. It is based on race, religions and/or sexual orientations. It is sad to say this can take in all other types of bullying. When this type of bullying occurs it is often severe and could lead to hate crime.
6 Common Types Of Bullies
Bully Victims often rise up after being bullied. They’ll bully others weaker themselves because they have been bullied themselves. Their goal is to regain the power and sense of control in their lives. Other times the bully victim comes from a home life riddled with domestic violence or suffers abuse from an older sibling. In cases like these bullying is a learned behavior.
Popular Bullies have big egos. Popular Bullies also have a group of supporters and/or followers. They are often confident and condescending towards others. In fact, Popular Bullies often feel a sense of entitlement that comes from their popularity, their size, their social status and their upbringing. Popular Bullies are sometimes the school’s star athlete and is often looked up to by others since they’re perceived as leaders.
Relational Bullies are usually somewhat popular and enjoys deciding who is popular and who isn’t. Often times Relational Bullies usually only use Verbal and/or Emotional Bullying to control someone. Mean girls are considered to be Relational Bullies.
A Serial Bully is systematic, controlled and calculated in their approach to bullying and they are often found in popular circles. However, adults such as parents, teachers and administrators usually have no idea what a Serial Bully is capable of because on the outside they may seem sweet and charming to authority figures but on the inside they can be very mean to others they don’t like. Examples of Serial Bullies are: They become fake friends to others and They are skilled at lying to get their way.
Group Bullies are either part of a clique or a group that just follows the leader just to belong. However, they usually act different when they’re alone even with the victim. Because children feel better when they’re in a group, they also feel less responsible because all their friends “are doing it”.
Finally, I found in my research that Indifferent Bullies are unable to feel empathy. They often will appear, unfeeling, cold and have very little remorse for what they do. They get enjoyment out of seeing someone else suffer and getting disciplined. They are discouraged by punishment. Also they are usually brutal, cruel and mean and usually have psychological problems.
I have given you something to read and think about but I said in the title of my post that solutions were included. Below are some of my solutions that might help with bullying.
Solutions For Bullying:
Don’t Start Bullying Anyone.
Walk Away If A Bully Tries To Pick A Fight.
Think Before You Post And Send.
Make The Block Button Your Friend.
Someone Starts Name-Calling Don’t Argue But Walk Away.
Tell Your Teacher, Parents And In A Worse Case Scenario Tell The Police.
Never Argue With A Bully.
There are plenty of more solutions and I’m sure you may be able to think of some but these solutions that are listed especially Number 7 Never Argue With A Bully, are some important solutions that might help.
I f you remember I recently updated you on a blind cat that needed to be adopted and soon or she was going to die. I also asked you to share her story everywhere you could. I thank everyone for doing that for me and I’m happy to report to you that Sadie Has Been Adopted!! That is right, Sadie got her ‘Kitty Miracle’ and just in time for Valentine’s Day. What a great Valentine’s Day for Sadie.
As many of you know I asked you to share, share and share some more. I asked you to do this because it might help a blind cat who weighs only around 5 pounds. I’m here with an update on sweet Sadie. She is still alive but the outlook is very grim I’m sad to say. I have been just told she may only have a week left before Sadie crosses the Rainbow Bridge. If you know someone who wants a pet and is willing to give them a forever home. Please ask them to give Sadie a forever home. This cat deserves it.
This is a picture of Sadie the cat who is in dire need of your help. If she doesn’t get the help she needs she will most likely die. The picture credit is from BriansHomeBlog.com and that’s who gets credit for this picture.
Please share and reblog this article so Sadie the cat gets the help she needs. If you use all your sharing resources she may be saved. PLEASE SAVE SADIE. Thank you In Advance For Your Help.
Another one of those weeks where I racked my brain on what to do for Positive Sparks Monday then wouldn’t you know it, it came to me or should I say the words came to me little by little until they just poured out.
Then I thought would my poem Love Is be a good Positive Spark. My answer came to me right away and that little voice kept saying was of course your poem will work because how much more positive can you get than love.
So this week my Positive Spark is on Love.
By: Crystal Stewart
Love is a Mother and/or Father telling their children things will be alright when they aren’t sure themselves~Love is a parent cleaning and putting a band-aid on their child’s scrapes and then they kiss them on the forehead making things all better~Love is helping the elderly in the wintertime~Love is helping someone without expecting anything in return~Love is helping someone not as fortunate as you~Love is respecting the flag~Love is the compassion of a cat or dog~Love is a true friend~Love is someone willing to die for you and I to give us our freedom~Love is a mentor~Love is a Grandma giving you chocolate chip cookies~Love is having someone to talk to who is willing to listen and understands your problem~Love is a hug~love is a stuffed animal that can’t talk back to you.
So when you come across someone who needs your help, give them some love by helping them and/or just listen to them instead of walking on by. Why? Please read the Bible verses below. That’s right, I said Bible verses. Trust me they are very helpful. The passage below is sometimes used for weddings. A passage that was on a bookmark for my sister and brother-in-law’s wedding when they were married in April of 1992.
I wasn’t sure what to do for Sparks on this wonderful Monday. Then it came to me, I would write an encouraging poem. As soon as I started writing the poem the words just came to me like I was writing a song. Have an encouraging Monday and rest of the week my blogging friends.
BY: CRYSTAL STEWART
Happiness is a smile~Happiness is a wave of the hand~Happiness is the sun shining~Happiness is no snow~Happiness is going to a Lady “A” concert~Happiness is mentoring someone~Happiness is shoveling snow for your neighbor~Happiness is doing something nice for someone who hates you~Happiness is a cat laying on your lap~Happiness is marrying the one you love~Happiness is having a cat or dog as a pet~Happiness is a rainbow~Happiness is a beautiful pink sunset~Happiness is knowing you have done something for someone without expecting anything in return.
LADY ANTEBELLUM IN CONCERT.
COLOURS OF A RAINBOW ON MEMORIAL DAY IN THE EVENING OF 5-29-2017.